Trapped in the Cycle
You've had the same fight a hundred times. The issue changes. The pattern doesn't. And no matter what you try, you end up in the same place.
Build an intentional life.
Examine what shaped you — choose what comes next.
Specialized therapy in Orem, Utah and Online.
Why People Come Here
Something isn't working — even if you can't name it yet.
The patterns
Living on Autopilot
Wondering if you're actually choosing your path or just following the script handed down by family, culture, or your past.
On Opposing Teams
Co-parenting feels like a constant battle. You want to be on the same team, but you can't figure out how to get there.
People Pleasing
You're the caretaker, the glue, the empath — and you're exhausted. You're always there for everyone else, but who is there for you? You're ready to learn how to show up for others while also showing up for yourself.
The particulars
Identity Crisis or Transition
You feel overwhelmed by uncertainty about your faith, your sexuality, your relationship structure, or your career path. You want to figure it out, but you don't know where to start.
Tired of explaining your relationship
Maybe your last therapist spent the first three sessions trying to understand ethical non-monogamy. Or maybe you never brought it up at all, because feeling quietly judged felt worse than not getting help. You want a therapist who can skip past the explainer and get to the real work.
Different plants in the same garden
There may be differing sensory needs, different rhythms, or different ways of processing time and language. If you and/or your partner experience ADHD, autism, OCD, or another type of neurodivergence, you don't need therapy to force you into a neurotypical mold; you need a relationship that helps you grow as you actually are.
Our Mission
We're here to help.
At ISDR, we customize therapy to meet your unique life — not the other way around. Our clients often feel like they are a different kind of plant than the one their previous therapists expected. They come to us after trying to force themselves into conditions that just don't fit, and they end up asking:
"Why can't I make this work? Am I the problem?"
Our experts begin by asking:
"What psychological nutrients do you need in order to flourish?"
We view psychological health like plant health: provide the right conditions, and natural flourishing follows. For people, those conditions are:
AutonomyThe experience of living a life that feels like your own — where your choices line up with your values, not just outside pressure. Similar to authenticity.
CompetenceThe sense that you can meet the challenges that life asks of you, influence your circumstances, and develop over time. Similar to self-efficacy and self-confidence.
RelatednessBeing rooted in relationships where you feel seen, valued, and able to offer the same in return. Similar to attachment or belonging.
A shade plant doesn't struggle in direct sunlight because it's broken — it struggles because it's in the wrong conditions. At ISDR, our specialists help you cultivate the conditions that support flourishing, working with who you are and what you actually need.
How We HelpGrounded in science.
Grounded in science.
Centered on you.
Meet Our Team
Relationship specialists, passionate about their work.
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Office Location
1452 East 820 North, Upper Level
Orem, UT 84097
Serving Utah Valley from our Orem location — Provo, Lindon, Heber, American Fork, Lehi, and surrounding areas. Telehealth available in Utah, Kansas*, and Missouri*.
*select clinicians
Phone
(801) 648-9664
Hours
Mon–Fri: 9am – 5pm MT
Sat: 9am – 3pm MT
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